Let’s face the facts, planning a wedding can sometimes be stressful. At times, the frenzy that is involved with pulling together the biggest party of your life will leave you begging your partner to elope!
In today’s fast-paced world, juggling your already busy work schedule and social calendar with organising a wedding can certainly be a testing time – there’s just no getting away from it!
Throw in other people’s conflicting opinions and their pressures to have your day their way, along with managing a budget and you can have a recipe for burn out (bring on the honeymoon holiday!).
So at this time of change and with all of the pressures that a wedding can bring, it’s the perfect moment to focus on your wellbeing.
Maybe you regularly exercise, possibly you already meditate and try to eat clean, or perhaps concentrating on your personal wellbeing is a relatively new concept to you. Wherever you are in your wedding preparations, whatever you know or don’t know about wellbeing methods and no matter what situations your life currently entails, there is no better time than today to start paying yourself some undivided attention and implement some wellbeing practices.
Each month I’ll be bringing you some wellbeing methods from experts around the globe, that are not only designed to help clear your mind and keep you calm at demanding periods of your life (coordinating your wedding being a prime example!) but to bring even more happiness to your day-to-day.
Sounds good hey? Well, each technique will be really simple and can easily fit into your hectic timetable and if implemented frequently can create greatly beneficial outcomes. So to get you started, Thanksgiving seemed like the ideal place to begin.
Reflecting on the meaning of Thanksgiving is an integral part of this American celebration. It’s a time when families and friends, who might be miles apart throughout the year, spend time together and consider how grateful they are to have each other in their lives.
The idea of a designated day for considering all of the joy and happiness we experience is a really positive one. Many studies have shown that expressing gratitude, being grateful for our good fortunes and being aware of life’s simple pleasures can have a hugely positive effect on your life, happiness and general wellbeing.
Gratitude focuses your attention on what you have got rather than what you haven’t. This is not to say that we won’t have ‘bad’ days or that everything is always going to be great but the simple exercise shared today delivers a way to always be aware of your blessings despite what else your day might have thrown at you.
Wellbeing – 10 things to be thankful for everyday
Let’s get you started….
- As you lay in bed on an evening and before you go to sleep, take a few moments to get comfortable and fully relax. Then all you have to do is run your mind over 10 things that you are thankful for from the day that you have just had.
- Focus not only on the obvious aspects of your day (a roof above your head, having a car that works in the winter etc and your loved ones although they should definitely be included) but also think more deeply about the little details that make your day special. Maybe it was enjoying your first cup of tea that morning, or a kind word from a colleague, having the time to walk through the park on your way home and the feeling of breathing in the fresh air, the sun’s warm touch on your face, having clean water to drink, a gentle kiss on your head from your partner, a cute text from your mum or a friend that made you smile…
- This might sound easy but once you have gotten into the habit of doing this exercise every day, it can become quite challenging, especially on workdays when you might experience quite similar days.
- Not only does this ritual give you the opportunity to actually think back over your day but it brings to the forefront of your mind all of the great things that you enjoyed rather than dwelling on any negatives or stresses that you might have experienced.
- I guarantee this will help you sleep too! I find it increasingly difficult to even get to thinking of 10 things, I’m usually fast asleep by 6 or 7.
This simple exercise ensures that you take time out of your daily routine to count your blessings and to be thankful for all of the greatness in your life.
When you start to think along these lines on a daily basis it can put your wedding stresses into perspective and even if life feels especially challenging on some days, you can even out the taxing moments of your day with thankful thoughts of being engaged to a person who you love, being surrounded by people who love you and that you have some budget to even plan a wedding.
You’ll also begin to notice that by becoming aware of the little acts of kindness that others show to you, you will find yourself giving out more compassion to others without even thinking about it, and to complete that circle what you put out you get more of, and with more kindness of course comes more happiness!
So give it a try tonight and attempt to introduce the 10 things to be thankful for everyday exercise into your daily routine and be sure to come back and leave your thoughts afterwards in the comments box below as I’d love to hear how you got on.