Okay, there’s no denying it, wedding’s can be stressful. You need to juggle the organization of the biggest event that you will probably hold in your lifetime with possibly a full time job or other commitments, along with trying to accommodate everyone else’s opinions and ideas, all whilst trying not to get too caught up in the emotion of the fact that you’re going to marry your beau and all of the amazingness that comes with vowing to spend the rest of your lives together. Phew!
Yes, weddings can be stressful whether they take place at home or abroad; the key is to not let it get on top of you (easier said than done of course!). Once your wedding is over, you will look back and remember the day, not all the numerous trips to the shops and the discussions over guest lists and table plans, you’ll look back and remember the first look between you and your hubby-to-be and you’ll remember like it was yesterday standing side-by-side with them at the alter. Keep focused on the bigger picture – you and your new hubby getting hitched – and make sure that you both have the wedding day that you have dreamt of; have your day your way and you’ll look back with nothing but happy memories.
Putting all of the standard wedding stress to one side, can a destination wedding be less stressful? Yes it really can. It brings some stresses in to the equation that you wouldn’t have if you were getting hitched at home, but if you have the right people on the ground helping you at your destination, then it certainly can be easier and here’s why…
If your idea of the perfect wedding day is waking up to a brilliant blue sky and not having to worry about the rain, then a destination wedding could be for you! If you love the sunshine, choose a location and the time of year that will deliver you with almost guaranteed great weather.
If you always aspired to having a big white wedding then a destination day might not be the right route for you as there will be guests who will not be able to attend for a variety of reasons. However, if you would be content with just your closest friends and relatives by your side, a destination wedding can be ideal. If a less complicated, scaled-down wedding sounds perfect, then a destination day could be just the ticket.
Hosting a destination ‘I do’ enable’s you to spend more quality time with your loved one’s as it becomes a multiday event. Most invitees are excited about the prospect of a city break or holiday to celebrate a wedding and if you are getting wed in Europe, cheap flights and a variety of accommodation levels means showing up to your special day can be done on a shoestring if desired.
A wedding overseas is almost assured to be more budget friendly. With a smaller guest list you can save on many areas. Most wedding venues offer very reasonable complete packages ensuring the final outlay is lower and by having stunning scenery as a backdrop, destination venues need little dressing up – avoiding high decoration expenses. Your honeymoon can be cost effective too if you choose to add this on to the end of your destination wedding.
Time and effort:
Destination weddings can be easier to plan; couples tend to have a wedding planner or a hotel wedding coordinator and having someone sending all of the available options to you online can keep things simple, whilst still giving you flexibility and options for personalization.
If you want to be in control of every small detail and the idea of a more relaxed approach to a wedding is somewhat scary, you may find planning a destination wedding a little out of your comfort zone. There is definitely an element of needing to ‘just go with it’ with an overseas wedding.
Make sure you get a good team of people on the ground at your destination wedding location, they can literally take all of the stress away by organizing every for you and keeping you updated on what’s been done and keeping the planning on track.
Rest and relaxation:
The days running up to a wedding at home can be the busiest time, rushing around and finishing off all of the last minute details. If you are jetting away for a destination wedding, book to arrive a good few days before your big day, this way the packing and finishing touches are of course all done before you leave the country and then you have a couple of days at your wedding location to meet up with your guests and just relax, unwind and enjoy yourself.
Hostess with the mostess:
Make sure you plan some meet ups with your guests and list the details of these group activities on a detailed sheet to send out with your invitation, this means you won’t feel like you’re hosting all of the time, if you have quite a number of guests coming out for your wedding. Most people are happy enjoying their holiday and aren’t wanting to be in a group all the time anyway, but list some of the bridal party members phone numbers on your invite details sheet as well, so it spreads the responsibility and means that not everyone will be calling you to see where the party is at!
Organisation is key:
If you do decide to go for a destination wedding, the key is to be organized. This is important for any wedding, but it will seriously make your life a whole lot easier if you have everything ticked off the list well in advance and you can just lay back on a sun lounger once you arrive at your wedding destination.
- Research and plan how you are going to take your wedding dress on the plane if you are flying. Read our how-to guide for the low-down.
- Check in another suitcase when you book your flights. It will cost less by doing this in advance and the extra suitcase can be used for any decorations, guest books, order of service sheets etc that you may want to pick up at home and take out with you. Pack this suitcase a few weeks before you go – another thing ticked off the list.
- Book in final meetings with your wedding planner and anyone else you might need to have a run through with, for when you arrive. Create a checklist of things you want to go through with them. They probably already have one of their own to go through with you but it is good to have all your questions listed too, doing this will put your mind at ease that everything has been thought of.